Practice being happy instead of pursuing it
Edited & Updated – We all want to be happy and hence, we all do the things that can make us happy. Here we are wrong. Happiness or being happy is not an object that can be achieved or attained. It is the one that can be practised. So, practice being happy or practice happiness.
Happiness – A state of mind
Keep in mind that happiness is a state of mind that is dependent on the internal conditioning, but not on the external environment. In simple words, happiness is not an outcome of things that happen around us or to us.
You can comprehend it with the support of an instance: Often we all have bad mornings when things seem to be going wrong right from the start. Like you wake and get knocked by the door. And you go to brush your teeth, you notice your toothpaste is out, your shirts are not ironed and at the time the electricity goes off. This so-called bad continues at your work and you reach home tired & sad and thinking about a better tomorrow. Here as you rewind the time and the bad things happened, you start feeling low and losing the state of mind, your happiness.
Change the game
Now you may ask how this state of happiness can be maintained in all situations. Here you need to practice being happy and avoid pursuing the things happened to you. How to practice happiness?
Consider the above-mentioned event. You’ll know how an external event (like stubbing the toe) triggered you to lose your happy state of mind. To practice happiness, you need to use the internal triggers that can instantly support you restore your happy state of mind, every time you lose it. For this, you need to know what the state of your mind is at any given time. Find out that it is happy or not. If not, stop here and follow the below-mentioned tips to keep your happy state of mind:
- Recall top five most happy moments of your life. Just take one of them and think about that particular time, relive that happy memory/event as if it is happening again. Do this for 2 minutes and you’ll start feeling lighter and happier. Keep recalling the rest happy moments and by the time, you will feel completely happy.
- Listen to your favorite music. Like others, you’ll have two or more than two songs that make them sing. So, start listening to those songs when you feel bad or find your mood is getting lower. Let the song flow through you and you’ll notice you are feeling well and your happy state of mind will be back to you.
- Watch your favorite comedy movies or funny programs. This will trigger your happy state of mind. This technique may need a longer amount of time compared to the first two which can be done within minutes.
Act from now and practice happiness. Sing, even if you do not sound good. Keep smiling even when things go wrong. Create happiness, and you’ll be happy!